A devastated mum who became a widow at the age of 31 has shared how their three-year-old daughter asked if they could ‘go to heaven to visit daddy’.
Emma Godfrey’s husband Thomas died in a road accident in Burton, Staffordshire, in the early hours of March 12, 2020.
He was a pedestrian and involved in a collision with a car, Staffordshire Live reports.
Emma says she will never forget the dreadful moment police came knocking on the door at 3am to deliver the devastating news.
She says she was brought to her knees and her world came crashing down.
Now, 15 months later, she has seen her business as a trauma freedom coach and advanced hypnotherapist grow.
And determined Emma has become a best-selling author as she shared her story of healing after such a sudden and unexpected tragedy.
It has not been an easy journey and Emma credits their daughter Heidi with being her strength through the initial dark days – and her reason for getting up.
The accident happened just 11 days before the first lockdown and Emma had started her new business just seven weeks before.
The 32-year-old said: “I started with taking time off as I had to take a step back. It completely brought me to my knees and I needed time to move forward.
“I had to make sure at the time that I acknowledged what had happened, how it made me feel and the impact it had on my life. Feeling is healing.
“I didn’t want to sweep it under the carpet which is what I’d always done. I couldn’t do that as it was too colossal.
“It was immensely difficult because my heart broke twice over. I had that knock at the door and then I had to tell my daughter that her daddy wasn’t coming home.
“It was one of the worst things I’ve ever had to do in my life and the pain still continues.
“I’ve had her in tears as it’s all very raw for her. We talk about him all of the time, it’s tough but a part of life now and I know we’re going to be okay.
“Initially Heidi was my strength as I had to get up and do things for her. I’m preparing her in the best way I can with the tools I can give her.
“She does cry and ask when daddy’s not coming back and can we go to heaven to visit. It’s really hard.
“My initial thing was because she is so young, from one perspective I was relieved she’s too young to remember how horrific it was but from another point of view I fear she’s never really going to remember him and I’m doing my best to keep his memory alive.
“He was very hands-on and used to sing to her a lot. He was larger than life and such a big character and very well-known in the area. He was very well-respected in his job as a senior engineer at Western Power.
“We liked the finer things in life and we’d eat out a lot. We lived a great lifestyle.”
Thomas was also dad to son Benjamin from a previous relationship.
He was always a big supporter of Emma giving up her corporate job to start her own business and she decided to continue to follow her dream after his death.
It meant selling their family home in Rolleston and moving to a smaller one in Stretton, but now she has seen her dream becoming a reality and using her own experiences to help others.
She even has her own mantra to turn pain into power and has even had this tattooed on her body.
Emma said: “It was summer last year when I thought I could do one of two things – become a victim and let it dictate my life or put my energy into helping others which I knew I wanted to do.”
Now she is celebrating becoming a bestselling author after bravely sharing her story of healing after trauma, of how she went from becoming a widow suddenly at age 31 with a young daughter to rebuilding her life, building a profitable business helping others and becoming an international bestselling author in just one year.
She shares the story in a fundraising book for NAPAC – National Association for People Abused in Childhood, a charity that supports survivors of childhood abuse.
Within hours of its release, When Women Heal has become a bestseller on the Amazon book charts launching straight in at Number 1 on the Amazon bestseller charts in more than 10 categories including inspiration and spirituality, entrepreneurship, and starting a small business category along with business coaching and mentoring skills; international business and finance; home based business and business biographies.
In the book, she tells how she overcame 13 years of bullying in her school years and huge emotional neglect to later realise all of these past experiences had led her to become the person she is today.
Emma said: “From where I was just a year ago, not knowing where I would be living or how I was ever going to restart my business to now being an international bestselling author is beyond surreal for me.
“I have come so far in such a short time and I put it down to the incredible amount of inner healing I have done.
“I am so immensely proud to be part of this phenomenal ripple effect that is now going to help so many other people move forward with their lives, it means more than anything to me.”
The book has been created by Natasha Bray, a psychology expert and the founder of the School of Healing Mastery and an award-winning success mastery coach and transformational pioneer in the business success industry.
The book includes 16 women’s experiences from around the globe of overcoming their own versions of trauma with accounts of childhood abuse, domestic violence, early widowhood and near-death experiences.